To have and to hold. Sounds romantic, doesn’t it? To choose someone and to physically embrace them, hug them, and hold them. That’s what the vow implies. And it probably literally used to mean that all those years ago when it was pegged. But, if you’ve been married or in a relationship for any length of time, you know that the holding gets old. I mean, don’t get me wrong, the holding is necessary…and it feels good. But the holding doesn’t get you through everything. Consider the other components of the vow — for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. Yeah, if you struggle with any of those elements, holding someone will be the last thing you’re thinking about.
Life. Whew! It comes…and it goes. And whether we called ourselves being prepared because someone was sick; OR, if someone dies tragically, unexpectedly, or prematurely…grief is grief…and it is no respect of person. The thing is…we never know how we are going to feel when we lose someone. Whether it’s someone we know or someone we heard about.
I was, as some would say, a public success and a private failure.